Tapping on Housework
ByThere are a lot of big issues in my life that need fixing; the sorry state of my finances, the 30 extra pounds I’m carrying and my complete lack of libido. All those things definitely need work but they are SO BIG. Those are complex issues with many facets to them.
Today I will tap on something a bit more manageable but equally distressing: Housework! Since I recently became a stay at home Mom it seems housework has now become my #1 job. Problem is, I deeply dislike housework. How in the world has this now become one of my main jobs in life?
Keeping things clean when one is single and in complete control of one’s surroundings is one thing. And it’s difficult enough when one has a tendency for messiness and clutter. Throw in 2 small children and a husband with the same lax attitude about cleaning up after himself in the mix and before you know it the house looks like a bomb went off in it.
At some point I will spend some time uncovering the deep seated mental programming that makes it so difficult for me to keep things tidy. However, right now what I need is a boost of positive energy so I can tackle those dishes in the sink and those old cheerios lying on the carpet.
“Even though I HATE housework and I resent that it’s my job to do it, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.”
“Even though it makes me totally crazy that my husband and kids get to do whatever they want and they get to relax while I have to clean dishes, I deeply and completely love and accept all my feelings about this”
“Even though I’m sick and tired of cleaning after my husband and children and it’s a job that’s NEVER finished, I choose to feel calm and peaceful anyway.”
FH – “I hate housework!”
SH – “Why do I have to do it all?”
UE – “I HATE housework”
UN – “How did I ever get stuck being responsible for cleaning the house?”
UL – “I don’t want to do it”
CB – “You can’t MAKE me do it”
UA – “I REFUSE to do it”
TH – “Let it all go to hell”And for a positive round:
FH – “I hate doing housework”
SH – “What if I could find a way to make this easy”
UE – “Maybe I could find a way to make this fun”
UN – “I love it when the house is clean and tidy”
UL – “I love it when everything smells fresh and clean”
CB – “I feel proud when the house is clean”
UA – “Having a clean house puts me in a great mood”
TH – “I choose to make cleaning fun and easy.”
Aaahhh… that’s much better. Think I’ll go scrub the toilets now.
[...] lack of interest or pleasure in usual activities – Check! insomnia or excessive sleep, nightmares – Thankfully I’ve been sleeping well. Still feel tired all the time, though. not eating or overeating – Overeating. A big Check! decreased energy and motivation – Check! withdrawal from social contact – Check! But masked by the fact that I don’t know a lot of people in my new city yet. poor self-care – Check! Need to really force myself to do simple things like shower and brush my teeth. inability to cope with routine tasks – Big Check! See my earlier post about Housework. [...]